This is an argument that has come up a lot
lately and I wanted to clarify my position.
I think we can all agree that there’s a
difference between saying “I’m gay” as an identity and saying “that’s gay” as
in insult. This doesn’t mean that intent is magic, because it isn’t. “I didn’t
mean it like that” isn’t a valid argument. If you are insulting someone using
an identity (which may or may not be theirs), it is an insult to people who
claim that identity. There’s no “it doesn’t mean that anymore.” If you use
someone’s identity as an insult, they are going to be insulted. THAT IS THE
POINT OF INSULTS.
For example, I claim queer as my identity in
terms of sexual orientation, for many reasons. I am still offended by the use
of queer as an insult. The same goes for any homophobic slurs and any slurs in
general. You can claim whatever you want as your identity, but that does not
mean it is okay to use the same words as an insult. It all comes down to power
and agency. It comes down to the difference between using something in
an affirming way and using something to demean someone.
There are so many other circumstances in
life where something is appropriate in one context and not in another. Why is
this one so hard for people to understand?
Yes, I call myself queer and lame and a
gimp, but that does not mean that I think it’s okay to use any of those words
as an insult, in any circumstance. And it doesn’t mean that I won’t be offended
if you insult me with those words. Offense being the point of insults, after
all.
I love this! I couldn't have said it better myself. :)
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